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Until They Come Home – #Justice4theFatherless

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9 months ago, in Ohio, we were all introduced to the heartbreaking case of Carri Stearns and her son, Camden. There have been ups, downs, court dates, appeals, waiting, and more waiting. Yet, Carri continues to fight and justice is slowly gaining head over the atrocity that was committed against Camden and her through Adoption by (not so) Gentle Care.

Recently, we have heard about another case where an unethical adoption is being attempted, this time in Alabama. While these two cases have many similarities, there are things about each that are very different. Not to mention that what you have read in the headlines about both of these cases only made it to the headlines because these women got in touch with the right people. When these cases are exposed people come out of the wood works with stories that are similar and most revolve around the unethical practices of…

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Adoption Coercion – The Case of Nikki N Ben Bales

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Don’t Stop Now! #notabravelove #bravelove #notbravelove

Don't Stop Now! #notabravelove #bravelove #notbravelove.

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Sibling Grief In Adoption


This this this this. The trauma never ends. It will go on and on through the rest of my children’s lives and their children’s….and it will go down never, permanently etched into our broken family tree. W, we miss you so!!!!!!

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“I never know what to say when someone asks me how many brothers or sisters I have.”

This came out of my 12-year-old’s mouth while I was driving the other day. There was no warning for a statement such as this. No conversation that I can think of that brought it on. We were listening to the radio and she just blurted it out. It caught me off guard and I wasn’t really sure what to say. I have tried my best not to shroud in secrecy that her father and I relinquished the daughter that came before her. I would never want to give any of my children the impression that IKL is someone we should be ashamed of or someone who should be kept secret. To do so would deny her and denying her would be to deny our love for her. Regardless of this, for a child growing…

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Saving Our Sisters (S.O.S)

Today is the day 4 years ago I did not listen to my heart.
I cried and cried the last 24 hours before 6pm came, I was not recognizable.
My hospital records document ‘duress’.
I still lost you that day W.
I want you to know, all of this is for you.
I never wanted to lose you.
I never wanted to be kept from you.
I am doing for other mothers and their children what I couldn’t do for us W.
I had no idea what I was getting us into.

Again and again and yet again, I am so so sorry.
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